Different Planets: Understanding Your Neurodiverse Relationship

Does it feel like you and your partner come from different planets? Does your partner see the world much differently than you do? Are you at a loss to figure out how to connect with them? You may be in a neurodiverse relationship… Neurodiversity relates to differences in how our brains work, leading to differences in how we perceive the world, communicate, and give and receive love. This includes people on the autism spectrum, with ADHD, learning disabilities, and other neurological or developmental issues. Someone who has a brain style that differs from the majority is considered “neurodivergent,” while someone who has the brain style that is similar to others is considered “neurotypical.” When these two brain styles pair up, miscommunication can occur, based on these differences. Neurotypical partners can get very frustrated with partners who just don’t “get it,” and may think their partners are being deliberately difficult or neglectful. Neurodivergent partners may feel like whatever they say gets misinterpreted, and communicating is a no-win situation for them and they shut down in response to pressures from their partners to connect. Inhabiting these different worlds can lead to conflict, frustration, and loneliness. This book can help you understand your neurodiverse relationship, begin to connect, and bring your “planets” into the same orbit as you learn how your neurodiverse relationship works and why.